Cross posted at thoughtsongod.cm
After eight years of fighting alienation, mom finally won out. She could not be stopped. The mind manipulation started long ago, in small subtle ways. When I first received my court ordered visitation with my two daughters, the alienation had already begun. I didn’t think it could work if I stayed in my daughters’ lives, but that was when I was ignorant to the power of the terminator and the profound affect her wall of separation that creates an alienation environment can have on fragile eggshell minds.
I would pick the girls up every other Friday. God how I would look forward to seeing them. I had been a stay-at-home-dad up until the separation. Anyway, one of the things mom the terimnator would do, would be to call the girls either on the Friday I picked them up, or on Saturday morning. Nothing wrong with mom calling as such, but it’s what she did when she called that was strange. This was just one of many methods used in the alienation process; a slow but steady movement to choke dad off from the children.
It would start out innocent enough, “hello” and “what are you girls doing?” But soon things turned for the worse. Mom would begin to repeatedly ask the girls “do you love me?” and then add “oh how I miss you girls so much, do you miss me?” she would cry, making them cry too. I couldn’t believe she would do this to the girls. If I would have known what I know now about the power and persistence of terminator mothers, I would have sough a court order to take the girls to counseling.
This type of manipulation would make the girls feel bad about them leaving mom alone, and for being at dad’s. The girls, of course, were upset after talking to mom. Sometimes the girls were only gone a matter of a few hours when the call would come.
If you read any of the other articles I have posted on parental alienation, you will see that loyalty testing is one way terminator mothers subtly alienate the fathers from the children. When children are young, small acts like this can have a long and powerful effect on them. It is one way to set the groundwork for further tactics, and in the end, help to end the relationship between children and their fathers.
Eventually, over time and with relentless persistence, like the terminator, the children will not want to have anything to do with their dads.
When it gets to this point, mom will proudly claim that it’s not her that is keeping the children from dad, but the children themselves, through “their own free will.”